… Those old days!


Tiba-tiba Youtube menyarankan untuk menonton kembali serial Felicity. Ah, ya, Felicity.  This series holds special place in my heart because it is not only about the series itself, but also about Hawaii.

It was back in 2006 when I first started the very beginning of my life adventure and Manoa, Hawaii is the special, and beautiful place that I was destined to be. Being the first timer as a sojourn, I encountered many new things that life had to offer at that time- too many to mention and Felicity is one of them.

I don’t exactly remember how I got to know Felicity for the first time, maybe it was via my dorm friends or other means, I can’t recall. Yet, I do remember that I was a huge addict of Netflix, so much different from the today’s Netflix. Streaming a movie at that time was yet to be a norm, so I was subscribed to the Netflix program that offered me a send-your-favorite-movies or series-to-your-mailbox plan. As a student relying herself on the limited stipend, I chose the basic plan: to have one DVD on one delivery. Long story short, I got hooked on these Felicity & Ben series so I always rushed myself to finish the DVD, send it back via the closest USPS mailbox in front of Hale Kuahine and could not wait until I opened my mailbox for the next series. One time I enjoyed the series while sipping the hot tea in my tiny yet comfy room overlooking the Manoa hill. Another time, I’d watch it covering my body with some soft blanket because the rain falling in Manoa hill brought some chills with it.  Ah those old days!

Now so much has changed with all the internet culture and Netflix plan and program, yet Felicity & Ben, the Old Netflix, Hale Kuahine, and Manoa will forever have some soft spots in this heart of mine.

That soft yet powerful force…


And this morning a nice and warm conversation happened between two old friends that have been a while since their last talk.

If I tell you what can bridge them, you may end up laughing, yet I’ll tell you anyway… 🙂

Yes, it actually started with Park Bo Gum. Yes, that cute rising Hallyu star. This conversation started from one or two mentions on Path being continued into a longer and engaging virtual chat. Little did many people know and realize that the power of popular culture, or Korean Dramas, to be precise have actually thawed many complete strangers into some warm and comfort buddies to talk with.

And this morning, another hypothesis has been proven : that Korean dramas can actually function as a bridge to connect two people sharing zero professional and academic interests, yet can end up being involved in such a warm and nice conversation. Isn’t it refreshing to have an interdisciplinary interest and even more enlivening to have a simple yet enchanting talk to start the day or to end the day? 🙂 For me, it is heartwarming and exciting to have self-witnessed that two human beings who used to have almost zero topic to converse, suddenly can find each other in one pleasant and engaging conversation.

And yes, KDrama has a metalanguage ability, a very effective one that has shifted itself from a simple filler to a vital and engaging topic.

And for this, thank you, Kdramas! for the endless topics, some excellent writing (though can be so flawed other times), some strong plots (because some other can be beyond illogical! :D, ooohhhh, don’t remind me about the fate of the white truck! and the makjang dramas that make your head hurt:D), those endearing, good-looking, and talented actors and actresses, the creative producers, and of course the prolific writers!

Later in the future, if you feel like re-connecting with your old or long-lost friends, why not trying to start commenting about your KDrama oppas and share your Kdrama quirk and geekiness? You may end up winning and finding some cool souls out there – be it the old or the new ones!

Try it! 🙂   It may save you from a boring day maybe or from a tedious gathering, or an annoying working colleague… or simply to have a nice and warm conversation just like I did!

Menyambung silaturahmi kan insya Allah membawa berkah dan umur panjang ya, semoga saya tambah sehat dan bahagia setelah ini! hehehhee

… and the last but not the least, it has shaped my morning into a productive one! off we go and write…. to a more serious  stuff now! 😀

…..will come back to surely update the list in one way or the other 🙂

Selamat Hari Ibu!


Sepertinya akhir-akhir, kita lebih sering disajikan dengan wacana “kami” bukan “kita”-  pemisahan non-fisik yang mengarah kepada ekslusifitas, dan bukan inklusifitas,

Entahlah mungkin saya yang kelewat sensitif dan kritis saat membaca wacana-wacana yang sering kali digulirkan di group-group Whatsapp teman-teman yang anggotanya adalah teman-teman di Indonesia, yang terbaca oleh saya:

Wanita dinilai dari “gemuk” vs. “langsing”, “menikah” vs. “tidak menikah”, “beranak” vs. “tidak beranak”, “bekerja” vs. “tidak bekerja”, yang pada akhirnya menilai identitas wanita hanya secara kasat mata, dan partial, dan bukan keseluruhan pirbadinya.

Saya menyebutkan fenomena ini sebagai “kekerasan linguistik”, untuk menunjuk pada fenomena bahasa dan wacana yang cenderung menindas kaum minoritas dengan wacana ekslusif, dan bukan inklusif, yang menekankan perbedaan daripada persamaan melalui pemilihan kosakata “kami” bukan “kita” “sempurna” “tidak sempurna” “menikah” “tidak menikah” “perawan tua” “janda”, dll.

Lebih dari sering, kita dengar wacana bahwa mereka yang menikah dan kemudian menjadi ibu adalah wanita yang sempurna, mengindikasikan wanita yang tidak memiliki  atribut itu adalah “outliers,” a.k.a “kurang sempurna”. Silakan baca dan renungkan sendiri bagaimana wacana-wacana yang bertebaran membentuk bahwa seorang wanita Indonesia yang sempurna adalah “mereka yang sudah menikah dan kemudian mempunyai anak.” Wacana yang seringkali memojokkan mereka yang memilih untuk tinggal sendiri, atau tidak memiliki anak. Sengaja ataupun tidak.

Jika kita kembalikan arti kata “Ibu”, Kamus Besar Bahasa Indonesia mengartikan arti kata ibu dalam beberapa arti, termasuk di dalamnya: “Panggilan yang takzim kepada wanita baik yang sudah bersuami maupun yang belum.” Dari sini seharusnya sudah jelas bahwa sudah ada upaya Pemerintah Indonesia, diwakili oleh ahli Bahasa Badan Bahasa Depdikbud, untuk tidak menganaktirikan beberapa kaum minoritas perempuan Indonesia. Atau dengan kata lain, KKBI sudah secara jelas memberikan makna yang memberikan pemahaman inklusif, dan bukan ekslusif.

Yang artinya, kebanyakan dari kita lah, penutur bahasa Indonesia yang menyempitkan makna dari “Ibu.” Kebanyakan dari kita, sengaja ataupun tidak, yang sepertinya ingin sekali tampil ekslusif, dan tidak inklusif.

Mengapa harus ingin selalu menggarisbawahi perbedaan, jika melihat persamaan seharusnya lebih mudah? 🙂

My two cents

First official day of Winter- the shortest day of the year (Winter Solstice, 2016)

NB: Mungkin karena beberapa bagian dari diri saya adalah minoritas, saya menjadi sangat kritis dan bisa sangat keras jika melihat “kekerasan” kepada kaum minoritas, yang sering terjadi tidak terlihat, seperti halnya “kekerasan linguistik” terhadap kaum minoritas.